5 year old dramas & 8 year old heart ache

Oh the dramas of being 5 and not always being able to do what you want to do when you want to do it. Xavier has decided, yes decided it is a choice, that when the music goes each day for him to line up at school that he is going to sook and carry on like a raw prawn to the point that I have to drag him over to his teacher and unlatch him from my leg and then high tail it out of there. Xavier is fine - he loves his teacher - has heaps of friends - he is just doing it for attention. It was escalating and getting worse so serious bribery needed to be instigated. A freddo for each day he goes to school without crying and then a happy meal for dinner Friday night if he could do it - last week a success. Yes one week people! Grrrr today he decides to carry on again and I now think that he knows he won't get his prize on Friday so will give me grief for the rest of this week. If I sound out of patience and fed up then you are hearing me correctly!! It is a choice for him - all a choice. Sorry if I sound mean but I have had it with his ridiculous antics!!! Argggghhhh. Any suggestions that you think might work will be gratefully accepted at this point. He is being covered in prayer already...... Then there is the 8 year old who is having some dramas at school with a particular friend who isn't treating him very nicely. No matter how many strategies and ideas we give him to help him with this he keeps going back - what do you do with that?? It makes me sad that he is sad. He just finished reading Harry Potter 1 and so I was able to talk to him about how Dumbledore gave point to Neville for 'standing up to his friends' because it takes courage to do that. Such a sensitive little soul is our Seth - he doesn't like to hurt people's feelings but I feel at the moment he is getting hurt because it is hard to speak up to a friend who keeps hurting you - especially when they always have a comeback! In the scheme of things these are very minor worries - I know. I have 2 healthy boys who generally enjoy school, have great teachers and are kind to others. They ask questions about God and that couldn't make me happier. They don't have any major problems and I am very grateful for that. Sometimes we just need to rant - yes? And now I will pray for them - God is with them and can help them even when I can't!